It's a numbers game

Some people are incredibly lucky and meet the perfect person on the first day of school.  Other people have to wait a long time to find anyone they can tolerate!  You are never to old to find a person to share your life with and if you are lucky you will meet several people you would be happy making a future with.  I have found that I have loved some people too much and broken the hearts of people who could have been good for me.  It was timing, alternative opportunities and maturity.  

The wisdom of my 36 years has taught me to seize chances and let people go in equal measure.  I have shed tears of joy and despair.  It has felt like all was lost and everything was beginning.  Relationships have been great and terrible, but I still believe it all happens for a reason.  The reason may not be evident for years, but eventually you will see that your time has not been wasted and you are a stronger person for the sum of your experiences.

How many people should you date?

• I found RSVP to be quite an intense process (kisses, emails, phone calls and dates), so I tended to try to just see one person at a time.
• However I liked to have an option if the date didn't work out to have someone else to read about (helped me feel less discouraged).
• I preferred to let males send me kisses (I didn't have much luck with the kisses I sent).
• On a Saturday or Sunday I would have a coffee with someone who had initiated contact.
• We had usually had a call first (a voice can tell you a lot about a character).
• I usually paid for my own coffee, but didn't make a big deal if they offered to pay (traditional males often like to pay and coffee is relatively cheap).

The best thing about going on dates was that it made me feel young again.  I started to worry that I would never meet anyone new in my 30s.  RSVP made me realise there are heaps of nice blokes out there who genuinely want to meet someone.  In a city of 4 million, it is easy to move in the same circles and never meet anyone new apart from at work (and it is awkward to start relationships there).  It was so exciting to meet someone who loved living in the city I lived in.

It's amazing to find so many great people in the same place and when they like the same cafe or area, you think to yourself, why haven't we met before!