My hubby grew up with three siblings and felt that he never had much time alone. He relishes time in the shed or lying on the couch reading newspapers for hours. He doesn't like hearing the washing machine going or me filling the room with an ironing board and steam. This is rather difficult considering we live in a small two bedroom flat (but are hoping to buy a house soon).
Holidays are the most difficult time. You would think it would be fun - away from work and all that time to relax. Quite the contrary. The nice thing about work is that you are away with other people for eight to ten hours a day. It wears you out, so after you have made dinner, there is only enough energy for a bit of tv. I enjoy a couple of hours of tv at night. Unfortunately my hubby has a lot more staying power and could stay up tip 1am happily watching show after show.
How do you make the relationship strong through the tough moments?
- Cook new recipes (keep food exciting).
- Go on work trips (he seems to miss me).
- Exercise by yourself (sometimes my chatter on a walk irks him).
- See your friends independently (time to nut out other matters and alone time for the other person).
- Use humour (the cranky person can't say in a bad mood too long if you can make them laugh).
- Remember your parents (good or bad, they set an example of how to behave or not to behave as a couple - learn from this and don't repeat the same mistakes).
- Remind yourself of the early days of your relationship and why you love each other.
- Take the good with the bad (it's not going to be great all the time).
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